Relationship problems

Relationship therapy at Expatriate Psychologist Bernadette van Wouw

Individual couples therapy is used for various relationship problems. For example, partners who have violent quarrels, are slowly ‘growing apart ‘, or where jealousy or infidelity are commom, may benefit from individual couples therapy.

The deeper cause of relationship problems is usually in the past and has to do with differences in background. The influence of the family of origin on the thinking, feeling and acting of partners is huge. Old pain, unfulfilled desires, unspoken expectations and child needs result in disappointment, anger and sadness. The battle begins, when we hold the other responsible for our emotions. We end up in entanglements and arguing, negative reactions that undermine the love instead of nourish. Your relationship can become so disturbed that professional help is appropriate.

If you dare to look to your old pain and behaviour like something of yourself, you can use the relationship for personal growth. If you decide to walk away and step out of the relationship, you deprive yourself from the opportunity to make a deeper commitment with the other and yourself. Sooner or later, in a next relationship, you will be confronted again with all the restrictive patterns which are triggered by another partner.

Tensions, frustrations and hassles occur in every relationship. They are normal and do not necessarily indicate an unhealthy relationship. However, when partners are not able to solve their problems together, individual couples therapy may be a solution. In general, the longer you wait to tackle a troubled relationship, the more complex to solve the issues. Therefore individual therapy is not intended to be a last resort, it serves as a means to enrich a relationship. So starting on time is essential.

In order to achieve the best results I work in individual sessions. Thus individual relationship therapy is highly result-oriented. To break the downward spiral, effective solutions are proposed and a satisfying relationship for both partners may result.

More information about treatment of relationship problems and other issues at practice Expatriate Psychologist Bernadette van Wouw can be found under treatment.